Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Turtle's Tips: Art!

This is the second of an occasional series of recommendations for philophical, consumer, and artistic consumption. It's admitedly from a guy who doesn't get out much but thinks he has something to offer anyways. I have no formal training that suggests I'm a qualified art critic. I just like what I like.

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Turtle's Art Tip: Abigail Woods Anderson

Abigail Woods Anderson* is a Minnesota-based artist with an eye for the detailed. Her water color, ink, and pencil pieces show her appreciation for nature, but maybe not in the way you most normally see it.

Anderson, like many artists, doesn't do art as a full time professional venture. She's occasionally but consistently selected for local exhibitions. Most recently she received second place in the watercolor category for the Minnesota State Fair Fine Arts Exhibition.

Title: Bittersweet and Tomatoes
Prismacolor on paper, 6"x8"


Title: The Hare Pauses, Never Idle
Prismacolor on paper, apx 6"x8"


Title: Oneiric Interval
Pencil and colored pencil on paper. 7.75" x 6.5". At the Groveland Gallery (612-377-7800)

You can see these and other examples of her art here.

I recommend her beautiful notecards. I just got another batch myself, hence the inspiration for this post. You can order 12 cards for $20 (free shipping) of any combination of the below six designs. Cards are professionally printed, full color with satin finish, blank inside with white envelopes. 4.5" x 6.25". Email awoodsanderson AT yahoo DOT com for ordering details.



* Noteworthy Disclaimer: The artist is a personal friend of mine. She made no request for help with promotion and I have not notified her of this posting. In fact, I'm worried she'll be annoyed.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Support arts education in Minneapolis

For all you Twin Citians, please consider coming to this weekend's Grand Opening of ArtiCulture's new location on Franklin Avenue. Drop in on Saturday, September 27, between 3:00 and 7:00 PM to see the space and support the work of this fabulous non-profit. You can make a whole outing of it and dine in at True Thai, which is in the same building, or head a few blocks towards the river to Raja's Mahal for Indian cuisine.

The event is free and will have activities for kids and adults alike, including artist demos, face painting, a clothesline sale of "affordable art" (under $35), and a Wall of Wine raffle!

On the later point, if you're interested in the Wall of Wine raffle (30 bottles of wine), you can get your $10 ticket ahead of time by contacting me through the comments if you are unable to make it Saturday.

Our daughter has taken several classes at ArtiCulture and has even celebrated her fourth birthday there. It's a great organization that exposes community members to all kinds of visual arts on a shoestring budget. Please consider supporting them today!

You can also check out their course offerings here [pdf]. Fall session starts in about a week!

Monday, September 22, 2008

Do not try this at home

I offer you, dear readers, some sage advice for free.

Say you happen to be a 30ish man who is a little soft in the middle. You don't really work out, because who has time with two kids? Forget that before the kids you didn't really work out either. So you're a bit out of shape, but you still can run (a little) and get on a bike. Besides the small beer gut and lack of physical activity, you're pretty healthy.

Say you have recently lost a few pounds and are feeling confident about your physical abilities. You then go on a family bike ride for 20 or so miles with a Burley in tow with a toddler. Afterwards you feel a little tired and sore, but pretty good.

The next day, you should not expand on your previous success by pulling the Burley with the toddler inside and a tag-a-long bike fourteen miles with 20 mile per hour wind on your side, pick up kindergartener from school, and ride with her "contribution" on the peddled tag-a-long the fourteen miles back with 20 mile per wind on your other side.

If you do that, despite my advice, you will find the entire journey will take over 3 hours (although it will seem like 6). Every slight incline will be met with horror as you try to drag the 100 pounds of girls and equipment latched to the back of your bike against gravity. Pain will emanate in every part of your legs, from the tips of your toes to your waist, and then spreading up your back. You'll fear to sit down, lest your body recalls for your pleasure every single bump you hit on the trail. Stairs will be a near impossibility for a number of hours. You will be incapable of helping out your sick wife with all the household tasks.

If you still don't take my advice, please, please, please, at least eat something before you go on this overly ambitious bike ride. When I say eat something, I mean more than a cracker and a dab of low-fat cottage cheese. And find some ways to repair your body upon return. I recommend laying on the floor and trying to stretch your muscles as your toddler crawls all over you. Eat a light meal and do so slowly so you don't throw up. Take two pills of ibuprofen (Advil) and drink a cool beer when your stomach is ready. Make sure you live next door to some neighbors with an outdoor hot tube they don't mind you using. Soak your body for as long as possible in the hot water. Try not to curse yourself too much about how stupid you were to try something you should have known better you were no where near able to do. Embarrass yourself by telling everyone you know about your bad judgment so that you'll remember not to overexert yourself like this ever again.


Hope you liked the advice. Now put it to use!

Friday, September 19, 2008

Happy 'Talk Like a Pirate Day'

Today, September 19, is "Talk Like a Pirate Day." Yessiree. It's that time of year when you can say "Argh Matey!" without embarrassment. OK, with less embarrassment after you explain that it's Talk Like a Pirate Day.

We're having a celebration with a bunch of friends tonight. The kids will get to dress up like pirates. (They are so excited!) The adults are going to create and enjoy some rum-based drinks. It'll be a swell time.

For another pirate related diversion, check out Sandra Miller's excellent true story that involves showing up at what she thought was a "slutty pirate party" only to discover it was really a more straight-up, fancy dinner party. Hilarity ensues.

Cheesy pirate joke of the day:
Question: What's a pirate's favorite sock?
Answer: Arrrrgyle!







Thursday, September 18, 2008

Another reason zero-tolerance policies are stupid

File this under stupidity.  This is what we get from "zero-tolerance" policies.



Box cutter was for work, but to school, it's a weapon

A Blaine High School student was suspended for having the knife in his car, violating a weapons policy.

Last update: September 18, 2008 - 9:57 AM

A Blaine teenager has been suspended from school for 10 days and faces possible expulsion Monday after a box cutter was spotted in his car in the high school parking lot. Administrators invoked the school's zero-tolerance weapons policy, which allows little disciplinary leeway.

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Expulsion because he inadvertantly left his box cutter in his car instead of returning it to a locked cabinet at home immediately after work?

It's so easy to just have so-called "zero tolerance policies."  When parents and school boards force this on to school administrators, this is what you get.  We now live in an age where school administrators understand the seriousness of school violence.  Why don't we trust them to make rational distinctions between real threats and stupid incidents like this one?



Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Turtle's Tips: Music

I'm starting an occasional series featuring my recommendations for music, movies, televisions, books, and overall governing personal philosophies.  It'll be great for you, dear reader, because what could be better than getting advice from a guy who doesn't get out much?

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Today's recommendation is for anyone who likes Joni Mitchell, Paul Simon, or June Carter Cash: Minnesota-based singer-songwriter Jaspar Lepak (formerly Jaspar Loes).  Her voice can best be compared to Joni Mitchell, which is pretty impressive as no folk singer has ever had a voice as smooth and sweet as Joni Mitchell.  Lepak is originally from Tucson, Arizona, and like her fellow Tucsonite, Linda Ronstadt, her songs have a pleasing, country music sensibility.

I've had the fortune to see Jaspar Lepak perform at our farmer's market a couple years ago.  My then three year old was so impressed with her that she mimicked Lepak's singing for a several weeks.  If you can't take a recommendation from a three year old, then you shouldn't trust anyone!

You can listen to a few of her songs for free at her MySpace page: myspace.com/jasparlepak  

Be sure to listen to Make a Pretty Thing, Bring My Mind, and Amy.  The last is a sweet and humorous song about her friend Amy, a geologist.

If you like what you hear, you can get her first two albums, billboard in this faint little light and Good Morning! Sunshine, from iTunes by searching under "Jaspar Loes" (her maiden name).  Her most recent album, Make a Pretty Thing, can be purchased at CD Baby.

So, take a gander over at her MySpace page and let me know what you think here (with comments)!

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Flattery

A 29 year old man serving as a Republican delegate was allegedly drugged and robbed while in Minnesota the other week.  He was robbed of a watch worth about $30,000 and about $20,000 of other items.

Now, it would be tempting to make fun of the Republican and use the incident to make all sorts of political points.  I'm not going there.  I genuinely feel bad for the guy, even though he's a 29 year old Republican delegate.  He's been the victim of a crime.

What gets me is something he told the reporter: "As a single man, I was flattered by the attention of a beautiful woman who introduced herself to me. I used poor judgment."

I don't know anything about this guy except some basic things about his politics and that he is an attorney.  I don't know what he looks like, what he sounds like, or his personal grooming habits.  But it is difficult for me to imagine that a 29 year old lawyer walking around wearing a watch worth 30 grand, as well as other expensive items, would not customarily be the recipient of attention.  He's not even from a place like New York or L.A. with thousands of other rich young guys to compete with--he's a young, wealthy lawyer from Denver, Colorado.

The sad thing is that he may be a late bloomer who has finally recognized that he can appeal to women, but now has had an experience that may prevent him from trusting women.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Michael Phelps and John Belushi

UPDATE BELOW (with new SNL clip)

In a few hours, Michael Phelps will host the season premiere of Saturday Night Live.

With the "controversy" surrounding Phelps endorsing Frosted Flakes instead of Wheaties and Phelps' own colossal diet, I'd love to see a reprise of one of the best John Belushi bits on SNL.




UPDATE: So while they didn't mention Frosted Flakes or have him smoking a cigarette, SNL did have a great skit with the message that "you too can have a 12,000 calorie a day diet:"

God bless America

We have freedom of speach, apparently still, in this country.  So it's great to see people exercise it, but  it would be better if they used their brains first.


According to the A-P, these real boxes of waffle mix were selling like, uh, hotcakes, at the Family Research Council's Values Voter Summit this past weekend.

But they are satire!  That's what the mix makers are saying.  According to the Encylopedia Britannica, satire is "human or individual vices, follies, abuses, or shortcomings are held up to censure by means of ridicule, derision, burlesque, irony, or other methods, ideally with the intent to bring about improvement."  I don't know how reinforcing a distasteful stereotype and outright lie (that Obama is Muslim) among the constituency that has invented and benefits from the racism and anti-Muslim sentiment is holding anything up to censure.  It's less clear to me how the creators intend to bring about an improvement.

But of course I'm playing into their hand.  This kind of thing should generally be ignored, but for the fact that millions of voters are swayed by racism and hateful lies.

Thursday, September 11, 2008

My September 11, 2001: Part 2

Continued from Part 1

September 11, 2008 - Part 2

When I walked in the office on the sixth floor, the front conference room had the TV on. A couple of staff members were standing in front. This wasn't too out of the ordinary. I was going to need the room within the hour, though, so I went in to make sure I still had it.

A coworker immediately alerted me to what was going on: "A 747 crashed into the World Trade Center!"

"Wha?"

It was at that moment as I glanced at the screen that I saw the second plane enter the frame and slam into the top of the building.

It was shocking, but like much of the rest of the country, we quickly knew we were no longer dealing with an insane accident, but an insane attack.

We watched in near silence as the news blathered on the same little information they knew. A few minutes more of this and then I hear the receptionist talking on the phone with her friend.

"There's smoke there?"

"Don't go there!"

"Just get out of that area!"

It's the Pentagon. There's been an explosion at the Pentagon and it's on fire. A few minutes later the news that a plane has hit the Pentagon is broadcast on the television.

I hurry over to my desk and call my wife at work.

Her office is a few blocks north of the White House, near Dupont Circle. We agree that I'll walk the two miles to her work, and then figure out where to go next. As I'm getting off the phone there is a huge BOOM! in the direction of the Capitol. There's the partially constructed office building between us and the Capitol. We don't know if something happened at the Capitol or if some big piece of construction fell. Our attempts to figure it out by peering out the window fail.

The TV alerts us to a report of an explosion near the State Department building in Foggy Bottom. As we are just one block from the Capitol building which may or may not have been attacked, everyone is told to leave the building and we spill out on to the streets.

It is amazing that the air I was in a half and hour ago could feel so different. It was still sunny and mild, but the air felt thick with all the tension and anxiety exuding from the people.

Everyone else in the middle part of DC were doing the same thing. Getting out. The roads were choking with cars. Most people were being remarkably civil under the stressful circumstances, but you did have a few folks honking and aggressively pushing their cars in front of others. The cars of course were going no where. It seemed to me that people would have been better off walking all the way to Bethesda or wherever else instead of driving. I never even considered getting on the Metro as being stuck underground in a crowded train during a terrorist attack held little appeal.

I was walking up Massachusetts Avenue, which is embassy row. I saw confused embassy staff wandering outside debating what to do. I saw other embassies on high alert, ushering people in or out (as each country had widely differing protocols for embassy security) and hurriedly locking up the gates.

I stopped at an ATM and took out $100 as a precaution. An hour later all the ATMs I saw were out of cash. I arrived at my wife's workplace. She wasn't there, but some of her colleagues were. They had been told to evacuate, but some had ignored it and stayed to watch the TV. Most of those who stayed appeared to be people who had friends and family who worked in or near the World Trade Center. I met my wife's boss for the first and last time, oddly being sure to thank her for the thoughtful wedding present she had given us (an excellent kitchen knife I still use to cut tomatoes). I learn my wife had left with a colleague to her place in Colombia Heights. I get the address, say an awkward goodbye, and walk north.

As I walk further from the center of DC, the hoards on the street begin to thin out. Soon I'm on a residential block that for all appearances makes it feel like a normal day. Few people are on the sidewalk. The only sound I hear are chirping birds. I think I relax a little for the first time in a couple hours.

Indeed my wife and a couple other friends and coworkers are stationed at the house, glued to the set. We commence to stare at it in shock.

One says, "I have a friend who has been working in one of the towers. She would have been there early today to monitor the primary election results."

Another, "The planes hit after most people would have been at work. There must be 10,000 people in those buildings..."

Eventually we get hungry and buy some pasta at the corner store at the end of the block which is open for business like just any other day. I find this strange, but don't know why, so I just pay the clerk without much conversation.

I finally can use my cell phone to call my mom and tell her I'm OK, even though by this time the news stations have it straight that "only" the World Trade towers, the Pentagon, and a portion of rural Pennsylvania have been hit. I don't know how quickly they figured out there were no attacks on the Mall or the State Department. Even my paranoid mother knows the likelihood of a peacenik like me randomly being in the Pentagon that day was utterly slim.

In the late afternoon, it appears safe to go on home to our basement apartment on Capitol Hill. Suddenly, living two blocks from the Capitol and Supreme Court isn't all that appealing.

We walk through a nearly empty downtown. Already military vehicles and personnel are out, blocking certain segments of the city. We walk past a downtown restaurant which is oddly open. It has a few patrons and a few staff and we go in and have an almost completely silent dinner.

As we approach the Capitol, we keep a two block radius to avoid any security blockades. Several military helicopters swoop overhead to the Capitol. We turn on the TV once we get in the apartment to learn it was Congressional leaders returning for their press conference and rendition of "God Bless America" on the back steps of the Capitol building.

The next day we arise, tired and disorientated. Outside our apartment building is a man in fatigues with a big gun. He and others continue to guard our intersection 24 hours a day for the next several months.

I get to work. Everyone else is shellshocked and unable to concentrate. We mingle in small groups talking about our previous day and what this all means and whether the US should make war on Arabs and what exactly is the difference between Afghanis and Arabs and who was Al Qaeda. At 10:00 I get a call from one of the staffers I was suppose to see the previous day.

"We gotta come in there right away for our meeting. Will you be ready for us in a half hour? We were unable to make it yesterday for some reason. HA! HA! I know there's a war on or something, but we need to get this redistricting plan squared away. Can you be ready for my boss in a half hour?"

I'm disgusted. My boss is disgusted. Everyone in the office is disgusted. We are all people who work nonstop for partisan advantage and yet we are sickened by the blatant partisanship displayed by this Member of Congress and his staff on September 12, 2001. (Later, I get a little bit of pleasure when the congressman was one of those depicted flirting with young interns days after September 11 in a controversial article in the December issue of Vanity Fair.)

After this phone call I began questioning just how long I wanted to stay in that city.

Over the following weeks and months, a war was started. DC was overrun with security measures, with concrete barriers, guards, and military vehicles everywhere. Then the anthrax scare happened. I remember uneasily walking past the wrapped up Hart Office Building. Every day our receptionist opened the mail with gloves on.

Washington, DC had lost a lot of the appeal it had when we first moved there June of 2000.

One year later, on September 15, 2002, we closed on our new house in the Longfellow neighborhood of Minneapolis and have been there ever since.

Monday, September 8, 2008

My September 11, 2001

Quick note: On September 11, 2001, tragedy struck thousands of Americans. Many lost their lives. Many more lost their loved ones. The seemingly random act of whole-scale violence shocked a nation and the world. Many, many people have stories much more tragic and horrific than mine. While September 11 was a personal tragedy for them, the day made an impact, small or large, on most every American. This is my story.

September 10, 2008 - Part 1

The seventh anniversary of the attacks on the World Trade and Pentagon is upon us. The moment causes all Americans to reflect on the immense loss of that and brings back some of the fear, anxiety, and outrage we felt on September 11, 2001 and afterwards.

I lived and worked in Washington, DC on September 11, 2001. My story did not end in the tragedy that thousands of my fellow Americans (and others) did on that day. But it is a day etched in my personal memory all the same.

Like we hear about New York City, on September 11, it was a beautiful early fall day in Washington. The hot, humid weather of August was finally behind us and I could again enjoy my 10 minute walk to work without sweating up a storm. I was in pretty good spirits. I liked my job. I loved living on Capitol Hill even though it was in the city's tiniest basement apartment. September 11 was my one month wedding anniversary. My wife and I had married while in the slow, muggy month of August while Congress was in recess--August 11, 2001. We spent our August honeymoon driving along the coast of Nova Scotia, Canada; admiring the ocean, eating fresh seafood, drinking wonderfully bitter bear, and staying in quaint, overpriced B&Bs.

I had been back to work for a couple of weeks at my job as a professional gerrymanderer. We were creating and analyzing Congressional redistricting plans to maximize the advantage for Democrats. Things were going well.

My wife and I had moved out to DC on faith without jobs two weeks out of college. We both had the good fortune of quickly snagging some jobs and had been in DC for a little over a year. After getting married we discussed how much longer we would stay in DC. We loved it, but we knew it wasn't the best place for buying a house on two nonprofit salaries or to raise a family. We were Midwesterners at heart and imagined we'd return eventually. I had advocated staying through the next election season, 2002, and figuring out our next steps in early 2003. She was working on the campaign finance reform fight and wanted to see it through.

As I said, I enjoyed my job. It was high pressure at times, demanding, inflexible--but I was young, flexible, and loving being in the middle of all the political stuff in our nation's capital. So, work was great, but my favorite part of the day was walking to work.

We'd wake up sometime around 8:00 AM, get ready, eat a quick breakfast, and be out the door. My wife took the bus or subway to her job in an office building between Dupont Circle and the White House. I would walk about five blocks to my work. I walked past a couple Senators' homes and past the security detail in front of a Bush cabinet members' row house. I walked past the old brick building that housed the Friends Committee on National Legislation (FCNL). This being the darkening days at the beginning of the Bush years, it was nice to see the peace-loving Quakers on the Hill and knowing they were fighting the good fight.

On my left I could see the Capitol Building behind the old, towering trees. On my right a couple blocks was Union Station. I crossed the street to find myself on the sidewalk along the Hart and Dirkson Senate office buildings. Often I would see Senators I recognized and VIPs (usually from the Pentagon) arriving for hearings. Mostly, it was the Senate staffers that had the good parking who were streaming down the sidewalk.

On one occasion I saw Senator Clinton hurry in with a team of Secret Service agents. I hadn't been paying attention and nearly walked right into an agent who had deftly planted himself on the sidewalk. I looked up just in time to see Senator Clinton less than 10 feet away from me. Occasionally, I'd see Senator Kennedy arrive in a minivan driven by a staffer or discover that I was walking next to Senator Barbara Boxer, who, by the way, is unusually attractive for a woman in her 60s and is very short.

Crossing the street you always had to be careful. Even with Capitol Police on site pedestrians were endangered of being hit by the reckless DC motorists. I had had a couple of close calls. Once, Rep. Juanita Millender-McDonald (CA-37), whipped around a corner and came a foot or two from my knees. (She had never slowed down.) On another occasion, a person who looked suspiciously like Sen. Patty Murry (WA) driving an SUV into the parking lot behind the Senate office building nearly knocked me over in the crosswalk.

On the morning of September 11 I don't remember any close calls with vehicles or Secret Service agents. I simply continued by the Russell Senate Office Building and across the park directly north of the Capitol, where I again could glance at the dome. This was the park I'd often see Senator Kennedy's dog out romping around, a couple times with the Senator, but usually with a staffer or intern. In the middle of the park stood a fountain where you'd often see people taking wedding photos on Fridays and Saturdays. Up on the left stretched the National Mall and I could also see part of the National Gallery of Art. In between, on Constitution and 2nd St NW, a very posh office building was being constructed to house the offices of some to-be-determined Washington moneyed-interests.

I crossed the street to my building and took a couple of fresh breaths of the peaceful, fall air before I entered. That morning I was to have a meeting with a couple of chiefs of staff of some Democratic representatives from a certain eastern state and possibly their bosses. They had been obtuse jerks in previous meetings, so I wasn't looking forward to seeing them this morning. I got on the elevator and that was the last normal part of my day.

Tomorrow: Part 2. Attacks. Fleeing central Washington. Returning. Leaving.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

I'm a stay at home dad

Another at-home dad sent this my way.



Let's just say I identify with with much of the song, only I don't watch Oprah or the Price is Right. I watch the People's Court.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

How many kids? Part 2

I recently posted an argument asking people to not be too judgmental when it comes to people's choice whether or not to have a large number of kids. The issue of whether pregnancies are planned or not, or whether children can be afforded are red herrings that distract from the main issue.

The question is what is a reasonable size for a family today?

I'm not going to assert what the ideal population of the world is. I'm not going to tell you whether we are past, at, or near the ideal population in the world. What I can assert, which I think is difficult to argue, is that continuous population growth is unsustainable.


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Graph courtesy of Wikipedia

We have limited resources and limited space. We can't continue the global status quo.

But, you may say, the birthrate is low in our country. The growth of population in the United States can be attributed to immigration. The real problem is in places like sub-Saharan Africa, where poverty and the birth rate abound. That's where you need to be concerned with family size.

And I would agree in large part. From a policy perspective, rampant population growth is a problem in developing countries and that is why the work of the UNFPA is vital in these areas. We know that rampant population growth can be curtailed with access to family planning services and information, with economic development, and with the educational/social/economic advancement of women.

While this is all true, it's not a reason to ignore global population growth in a wealthy country such as ours. From an environmental perspective, each body in this country consumes many times more energy and resources than just about any other place in the world--and that's regardless of that person's personal choices. Just by being here (in North America) you are contributing to the problem in a disproportionate way.

Each person born is going to take some share of the Earth's resources. In a world of finite resources, every person born is going to take a share that could be taken by someone else. Each additional person makes the pie slices a little thinner.

What do we do? We have less kids. And that means everybody. We're all in this together. It's unfair for one family to get what is morally unavailable to another. We're all on the same Earth and need to work in concert with each other.

The gifted science fiction writer, Ursula Le Guin, described a multi-generational colonizing space ship in the novella Paradises Lost. (It is a story that bears some resemblance to the future humans in the Wall-E movie.) Of course this confined spaceship of 4000 people has to have a carefully maintained population. Each person is restricted to having one child, with the possibility be allowed a second child if there is an open slot.


"Everyone who wants to can gave a child. One child, two at most. A woman has her motherchild. A man has his fatherchild."

And also,


"Everybody can have a child. Some can't or won't or don't have children and some children die young, and so most of those who want two children can have two children."

The ship can be seen to represent the finite Earth. Now, I would not advocate that, like this science fiction society, we need "anthrogeneticists" with the authority to give us permission when and with whom to have children and how many. But wouldn't it be better to create a culture where the small family is a near universal norm--to an even greater degree than may currently be the case?

I'm told there are joys of having big families with multiple siblings. I bet that's true. But I bet there were also joys of shooting massive numbers of American bison in the Great Plains in the 1870s. We just can't afford to let people do that anymore.

If you are a parent of say five children reading this, you might be feeling a bit defensive. "I'm not selfish. I'm not causing the problem. There are bigger problems than whether I have a few more children than the median American." Again, I agree. I'm not trying to thumb my nose at you. I certainly have no moral high ground. While I only have two children, there are lots of ways I am consuming my grossly disproportionate share of the Earth's resources.

It would be unfair to judge people today for having too many children when there is no societal consensus on the subject. As Americans, we really haven't addressed the issue of overpopulation as it pertains to our own birthrate and the personal choices involved. I'm just saying that we do need to have that conversation and perhaps going forward we need to say goodbye to families with more than three kids (excluding adoptions of course).

So I'm not telling you that you're out of line if you have five kids. Yet. But I'm hearby putting you on notice. Going forward, once you get to the 2 or 3 kids mark, it's time to have the tubes tied or cut.

McCain's Plan B

As the New York Times told us yesterday, it has become increasingly apparent that the selection of Sarah Palin was a last-minute rush job. Not that any of us needed to be told that.

“They didn’t seriously consider her until four or five days from the time she was picked, before she was asked, maybe the Thursday or Friday before,” said a Republican close to the campaign. “This was really kind of rushed at the end, because John didn’t get what he wanted. He wanted to do Joe or Ridge.”

I had thought all the talk of Joe Lieberman and Tom Ridge were intentional diversions from the McCain camp with the purpose of keeping the media in the dark of the true running mate pick and signaling to moderates that McCain is such a maverick that he at least considered a "pro-choice" "Democrat." Evidently I was wrong. McCain really was hell bent on selecting Lieberman until the right wing honchos set him straight in the preceding week or two.

Responding to the media drawing the obvious conclusions that they didn't fully vet Palin, the McCain camp said, oh no no no, she got a full FBI check. Never mind that a campaign using the FBI to investigate a candidate would be illegal and the FBI denies it. But wait, they point out, she got a questionnaire that other candidates received that had 70 whole questions. If you ask if they followed up to verify any of Palin's responses you'll find that the McCain campaign people have quickly scuttled away.

What does this say about McCain besides that he may have poor judgment when it comes to picking quality people? For me it makes it clear that the campaign had absolutely no Plan B in place for the very real possibility that Lieberman and Ridge would not work out. If they thought that Romney and Pawlenty were too "conventional," certainly they could have had a couple more quality people in the wings they could have spent time vetting? But no! They were stuck and had to scramble to get their shit together at the last minute.

Haven't we learned the negative consequences of having a guy in the White House who doesn't see the value in planning any contingencies? Haven't we learned there is nothing noble about moving forward with plans without modification despite mounting evidence that it's not going to work? Haven't we learned, now marking the anniversary of Hurricane Katrina, that you got to make sure people are up for the job before you give it to them?

John McCain, with 72 years of life experience and having lived through nearly 8 years of the Bush administration, hasn't learned these lessons. Will voters be able to do a better job and not repeat the mistakes of the past?

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

How many kids? Part 1

I've been watching with interest (and dipping my toes in) the debate over Sarah Palin's childbearing and childrearing choices and to what degree they reflect on her as a person, a mother, and a candidate. I don't want to rehash those arguments here, but the subject did get me thinking about choosing to have large families in today's world.

Is it OK to look down on a person's judgment for bringing five kids into this world? Is it relevant if they have trouble affording five kids? Is this changed if both parents have demanding jobs that take them outside the home frequently?

Does it matter if all five of the kids were planned? Does it matter if all five of the kids were unplanned? Furthermore, what do we think about the women or men who have five children, but from multiple partners?


Are any of these scenarios fairly subject to ridicule?

First, let's look at the problem with being too judgmental of people's childbearing choices. The affordability question is a big slippery slope. Where do you draw the line? If people waited until they could "afford" kids, we'd have a huge population of first-time parents waiting until they reach 40. (Oh, wait a minute...) While there is nothing ethically wrong with waiting until 40 to have kids, on the societal scale it means high numbers of infertility issues, maternal health issues, and greater risks (like Downs) for the resulting children. So, perhaps the affordability issue can be overemphasized.

We all have different standards on what is affordable. Are we really going to tell working class people struggling to make ends meet that they are ineligible to have families? The other side of the coin is that wealthy families get "permission" to have large families that are morally barred to less well off families. Hey, this isn't China. Rich people get more cars and homes and flashy entertainment systems than the rest of us, but should they get to have more children?

Connected to the wealth issue, is it better to have multiple kids if a parent can be at home as opposed to daycare? Again, a messy standard. The decision whether to go the childcare route versus at-home parenting relies on many factors. We know that for families and children both options have their positive and negative aspects. Why should that matter in the decision to have kids? Or are we telling career women that they are not allowed to have kids or at least not very many of them?

The planned versus unplanned distinction is a whole can of worms. I think we can all agree that due to inadequate sexuality education and irresponsible personal choices, a great many men and women unintentionally find themselves on the cusp of parenthood. But to paint all unintended pregnancies as evidence of moral failure is unhelpful and unfair. Approximately 50% of pregnancies in the United States are not planned. That would be a big number of "irresponsible" couples. Of women seeking abortions, over half had been using a method of birth control the month they got pregnant. Sometimes people are inconsistent with birth control and sometimes birth control methods fail.

I'm proudly pro-choice. But I would never judge someone harshly for making the personal choice to continue an unexpected pregnancy to term. Afterall, it's all about choice. If you negatively judge a woman who has had more than one child unplanned, you are putting a woman who has had multiple abortions on higher moral ground. I would assert they are of equal moral standing.

And as for the multiple partner angle, both fathers and mothers are judged for this, but women are judged much more harshly for having multiple partners than men. And women are usually the ones actually taking the responsibility for the resulting children! I'm not going to say that perhaps a person who has had five kids by three partners may be making some ill-advised and selfish decisions. But I would also urge people to pause before judging and assuming too much. None of us know where life may unexpectedly take us. Some of us are simply more lucky in love.

Too many kids?

NEXT UP:
Now that I've argued that it is unfair to judge someone for having large numbers of children in these kinds of circumstances, I'm going to get a little judgmental myself. I'm going to say that no one in North America today has the moral standing to birth large numbers of children regardless of circumstance. I'm not advocating a China one child policy, but in the world in which I'm in charge, no one bears five kids. Stay tuned.

Monday, September 1, 2008

Praising the unworthy

Please check out Dr K's post Searching Myself for Praise of Sarah Palin.

Dr K had taken me up on my offer to make a wager on who Barack Obama would pick as his running mate. Biden was one of my three, so Dr K lost. The loser had the challenge of having to pen a post praising McCain's pick. Of course at that time, we were thinking it'd be someone like Pawlenty, Romney, or Crist--slightly easier targets of praise. Little did we know! But Dr K did what he could.


There's been some discussion on whether the recent news about Palin's 17 year old daughter will have a negative impact on the electorate and whether it is "fair game." Even though I was among some of the voices that said Palin's own family choices are relevant to her seeking the office of the vice president, I got to say that--duh!--her daughter is NOT fair game.

This is a young person who has not chosen to put herself in the public eye. It is an unfair and unhelpful standard to hold a politician accountable for the mistakes of their children--particularly for such a common mistake. My response to this news: whatever!

But will socially conservative voters respond to this? Are you kidding? These people didn't turn away from Bush-Cheney even though Cheney has a gay daughter as John Kerry inartfully reminded us. If that didn't change their vote, then the 2008 running mate's 17 year old daughter carrying a pregnany to term won't matter much. Except maybe to Alan Keyes.